"So I've been debating whether or not to tell ____ I like him. What do you think?"
"Yes."
"Oh. I was hoping you would say no."
"It is always better to know then to wonder, otherwise maybe he is thinking you do not like him. Do not forget, guys are timid as well."
"Haha. Yeah, but I also do not want to scare away a friend."
"Tell him that too. Tell him that you cherish him as a friend and do not want to lose him as such."
"Oh dear..."
"But you cannot be all sweet about it and be like, '____, what do you think of me?' You need to just be blunt - '____, do you like me?'"
So here is what you do:
"'_____ do you like me?' If he says no, then you say good I was just checking that our wants and viewpoints of our relationship were mutual. If he says yes answer with an I do too - that way you know without the awkwardness."
"Why is that? Oh bother...I hate all this stuff."
"Yes it does stink, but you could either sit and twiddle your thumbs or know."
"I'm good at twiddling."
"You have to be blunt because guys do not think the same way as women. If you say 'what do you think of me?' he will respond with things such as, 'you're cool, good at sports and funny. You may be good at twiddling, but 'Kimmy says, 'if you love someone, just say it. Say it right then, out loud otherwise the moment just passes you by.''"
The big question...does it have to be in person?
"No. You can text him the question of if he likes you, but he might avoid it via text."
The best bet is to do it in person, but this might make the guy feel like he is being confrontated, and frankly, guys do not like this. The best way to ignore the feeling of confrontation is to bring it up when you are both having a good time, but NOT at an isolated location like a restaurant where there is 'no escape.' A telephone call is indirect and is more casual, but not as personable.
Anyways, this is what I think and being a guy and all....
Also, my sister in law had a baby named Kate... adorable. Here is the announcement:
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